Love, what is it really?

Lately, the word love and its meaning have been on my mind. What is love really? Is it a noun or is it a verb ? For some it may only be a noun.  Most of us use the word everyday without giving much thought to what it really means. The common expressions, “Love you,” or “I love you” are used by most of us every single day, but they are just words if there is no action. For me and my family it is a verb that requires action.

Our motto is: “Love is an action word.”

Most of us have heard the bible verse “Love is patient, love is kind” (1 Corinthians 13:4–8a). There are many other verses in the bible that talk about love, but for now lets focus on this one as it requires action from us.

The first three words in the verse require us to take action within our families, with our friends and within our communities. Having patients means that we must be even-tempered, slow to anger, be quiet and have the ability to listen to others. For example, in everyday family life it is easy to forget to listen to one another. This often how arguments start between siblings and/or spouses. When one person feels that they are not being heard it causes them to react quickly and often without thinking. The discussion can quickly become heated and feelings get hurt. Learning to let each person speak without interrupting them not only lets them be heard, but also allows more thoughtfulness when giving a response. This all requires action.

The same holds true when dealing with people within our community or friends. We have all have had times where the person in the car in front of us is going too slow or the person in front of us in line at the grocery store is taking too long. It is easy to get upset and yell or say something that is unkind, but the right thing to do is to be respectful and polite. Easier said than done, right? Well, remember that we do not have a clue what they are going through. They could be dealing with much more than we know. Just as they don’t know that we are running late, or that the car wouldn’t start, or the dog got out. We have become a society that is so self involved that we have forgotten to stop and thing before we react.

Love is an action word.  It requires us to be accountable for our actions. It requires us to give of our selves. This is not a lot to ask to make the world around you a better place.If we would all take the time to show one another some compassion we might just be surprised how the smiles spread and maybe our own lives would not seem so out of control. We may even make new friends in the process.


Published by Denise Rogers

I am a wife, mother, stepmother and grandmother who enjoys spending time with family and friends, crafting, gardening, and I am learning to live with being disabled. In 2017, after my 8th thoracic spinal surgery, I lost all feeling from the waist down as well as losing my proprioception on the right side. This has made it difficult to stand without assistive devices and made it, so I am having to relearn to walk. Plus, I have another uncommon condition called Chiari Malformation Type 1 which also creates balance issues as well as many other health issues. Because of the Chiari and the spinal cord injury, I have been left with severe nerve damage which causes a great deal of pain (5 and greater on pain scale) as well as spasticity, muscle spasms, and allodynia (burning) in various areas of my body. I have endured 8 surgeries on my Thoracic Spine and will probably need more as the drain that was placed will eventually clog and require replacement. Currently, I have a spinal to pleural cavity shunt, which drains the CSF from my arachnoid cysts into my pleural cavity. Professionally, I am a retired Health Care Professional with over 26 years of experience. I have worked in the Public Health realm as well as in Long Term Care and Acute Care. I have a B.A. in Sociology with an emphasis in Social Work. It is my hope that through sharing my personal trials, experiences, and triumphs that I can help others keep moving forward. No matter what life throws at us we can always tell a better story. I know that God is with me and because of this anything is possible. His promise to be by my side every step of the way helps me to keep pushing on even when there are setbacks.

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