Living with uncertainty daily as to whether it will be a low pain, or a high pain day is difficult. It is further complicated by the fact that I help homeschool two of my grandchildren daily. My granddaughter is a 1st grader, and my grandson is a 4th grader. This requires extra planning, patients, and less of the old perfectionist me. But the real blessing is watching them learn and grow. When they discover something new and their eyes light up warms my heart.
Still, I must navigate the pain and medication schedule so that I am able to assist them. It is hard when I have those days where for no real reason my pain goes from a 2 to 6 in an instance. I have discovered that explaining how I am feeling is important. It allows them to learn empathy for others and gives them an opportunity give back. For example, there are times I must sit down and put my feet up. Both children allow me to sit and bring their computers over to me and we continue with their lessons. They are both ready to help me as well. My grandson will ask if I need for him to get me anything. My granddaughter will help put my recliner up and down.
Teaching children how to be helpful, patient, and give back is something that seems to be lost these days. So many children today are only concerned with what can “I get” or “how does this benefit me”. I believe children like to be useful and feel like they are accomplishing things. For example, my granddaughter loves to help Swiffer and fold laundry. Now she might not do a perfect job but that is not what is important. Teaching her how to do the task and praising her for the job she completes is what counts. No matter what the task is giving positive reinforcement is crucial. This allows the child to learn, give back and gives them the ability to accomplish new things. This causes them to grow.
This injury has dramatically changed my life. I live daily with having to take medications multiple times a day to control pain, spasticity, muscle spasms, and sometimes to help with anxiety. But in many ways, it has changed it for the better. It has caused me to slow down, not to take any part of life for granted, and to have patients. It has also taught me how to receive and given me precious time with my grandchildren allowing me to teach them so many things including tolerance and acceptance. Plus, I have also the time to maintain my blog, to create fun crafts, garden, and to share it all with my family.
Instead of waiting around for opportunities to find us, we can create our own. Living with chronic illness of any kind can bring feelings of hopelessness and thoughts of “I can’t do…”. But it is in these situations one finds important opportunities to create fantastic experiences. For example, when traditional yoga was an issue for me, I looked for an alternative. I found an instructor that came to my home (before Covid) and helped me structure a program that met my needs. I continue to work with her via zoom. This has helped me to progress and become stronger. Allowing my body to further repair and create new neuro pathways. This has assisted with my balance and proprioception.
If you opened your eyes this morning you were afforded another day. So don’t hesitate take the blessing and create your own opportunity.
” May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13
God gave us a gift of another day when He woke us up this morning. Rejoice and share it with those around you. Our time is not promised and spending the time angry or holding a grudge is not fruitful, but sharing a smile, helping someone, or just giving others the gift of our time is. So, enjoy your day because you only get to live it once!
For most people the phrase “I love you,” gets used multiple times per day. But how often do we show those around us how much we treasure them? Love is an action word designed to show our loved ones how much they mean in our lives. It is not complicated, nor does it require big actions. In fact, it is the small things that connect us.
Something as simple as a hug that is a little longer and tighter will convey how you feel. Or maybe a kiss that is lengthier instead of a quick peck as you run out the door. You could even reach over and grab their hand while you sit and watch TV at night. Or maybe send them a brief text or two during the day letting your loved one see you are thinking about them. The point is, you can let those around you know how much they mean to you by showing them.
Our time together on earth is short. So take a moment to show your family and friends how significant they are. Saying “I love you” is still meaningful, but showing them connects us on a much deeper level.