You are only in control of your reactions


School is back in session! For me that means lots of driving, dealing with other drivers, providing lunches for multiple children, and helping the grandchildren with homework along with my normal responsibilities. It can get a bit crazy at times. But remembering that I can only control my reactions to any given situation is crucial for my sanity and to help those around me not feel mistreated/underappreciated.

It is easy to forget sometimes and react to things like an inconsiderate driver who cuts you off in the school pick-up line. Or when a child become distracted, and you have explained the same problem three times. But when we react negatively, like getting angry and verbalizing it, it not only teaches others how not to behave it can cause emotional damage. For example, when we react harshly or with a dismissive tone it can make those around us feel like they have done something wrong or that what they have to say is not important conveying the wrong sediment.

Remembering to take a breath before we react can help us react better to any situation. It will help us get better control of our actions which will result in better reactions of those around us. We are not perfect and may forget this from time to time, but learning to say, “I’m sorry” and reframing reaction can turn a negative reaction into a positive one. So, take control of your reactions, it can make a crazy day turn into a happy productive one and preserve your relationships with your family and friends.

Published by Denise Rogers

I am a wife, mother, stepmother and grandmother who enjoys spending time with family and friends, crafting, gardening, and I am learning to live with being disabled. In 2017, after my 8th thoracic spinal surgery, I lost all feeling from the waist down as well as losing my proprioception on the right side. This has made it difficult to stand without assistive devices and made it, so I am having to relearn to walk. Plus, I have another uncommon condition called Chiari Malformation Type 1 which also creates balance issues as well as many other health issues. Because of the Chiari and the spinal cord injury, I have been left with severe nerve damage which causes a great deal of pain (5 and greater on pain scale) as well as spasticity, muscle spasms, and allodynia (burning) in various areas of my body. I have endured 8 surgeries on my Thoracic Spine and will probably need more as the drain that was placed will eventually clog and require replacement. Currently, I have a spinal to pleural cavity shunt, which drains the CSF from my arachnoid cysts into my pleural cavity. Professionally, I am a retired Health Care Professional with over 26 years of experience. I have worked in the Public Health realm as well as in Long Term Care and Acute Care. I have a B.A. in Sociology with an emphasis in Social Work. It is my hope that through sharing my personal trials, experiences, and triumphs that I can help others keep moving forward. No matter what life throws at us we can always tell a better story. I know that God is with me and because of this anything is possible. His promise to be by my side every step of the way helps me to keep pushing on even when there are setbacks.

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