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Stop waiting for something good to happen…

Every day God gives us the ability to make choices about many things in life, including what we think and say. Our thoughts affect our moods and actions. We all can control our thoughts and actions; therefore, we all have the ability to control whether we are happy and full of joy or sad and gloomy. We can also affect the way our bodies react to stress and pain by controlling our thoughts.

People who are negative in their thoughts and words are usually unhappy and rarely satisfied with anything for very long. Even if something great happens the moment flees quickly, and they tend to return being tired, upset, and sad once again. If they deal with things such as chronic pain, they are likely to have many higher pain days than those who focus on positive thoughts and words.

Thoughts and words are used because they go hand in hand. For example, when talking about recovery, if the focus is, “I can’t, I remember when I used to, I wish I could, and etc.” not only are these thoughts that run through our minds, but they are also spoken out loud which perpetuates the negative thoughts. They help keep us down, unsure, and unhappy. They make improvement impossible. We probably are unaware that we could be happy if we simply change the way we think. We wait around for good things to happen instead of fighting back to guarantee that positive things will happen.

When we work on controlling our thoughts and words, we can change our daily lives. Not to say that every day will be perfect, but we can still be happy even on the bad days. When we change our thoughts and words to, “I can, I will, or Look at what I can do now, etc.” We focus on the good, therefore, changing the narrative in our heads allowing our moods to be uplifted. When our moods are uplifted, we can deal with stress and pain much easier. We shift our focus to getting better and doing things like walking again. In turn, our lives are filled with joy and happiness instead of turmoil and sadness.

Regardless of life’s circumstances we all can have more joyful, peaceful, and healthier lives.  Instead of waiting around for good things to happen take action to ensure that something good will happen. Negative thoughts creep in and steel our joy and often take over. God entrusts us with making many decisions every day which include our thoughts and we must not take that lightly. Ask Him to help you choose positive thoughts and words which will allow Him to give you a more abundant life.

Little moments

In our lives we all have those little moments (small encounters) when you walk away smiling and thankful for the experience. I recently had such a time. My family and I had gone to the movies, and when it was over, it was time for a much-needed bathroom break. Of course, there was a line after all it was the womens’ bathroom. While waiting in line there were two young girls and their mother. One of the girls looked to be about 5 and her sister was a bit older. The younger girl said to her mother in a not so quiet voice, “what is wrong with her? Why can’t she walk and stand?” The mother looked mortified and attempted to quiet her daughter. I turned, smiled, and explained to the girl that I have a spinal cord injury but in terms she would understand. I said, “I have an owie inside my back.  It makes it hard for my brain (pointing to my head) to tell my legs what to do. My signals get mixed up.” She then asked, “We you born this way?” I told her, “told her no, my back got really sick about two years ago and I had to have special surgeries to my back. One of the surgeries made me brain and my legs stop talking to each other like hers do.” I also explained that I use my walker to help me get around and it helps me to keep from falling because I lose my balance frequently. As I finished washing my hands I turned to the mother and girls and said, “Thank you for asking questions. I love questions. “

This small encounter was a blessing. Often people just stare or stare and point. I can tell that they have questions and are guessing as to why I am in the state I am. I only wish more people were like the younger children who ask or at least speak out loud and say things like, “what is wrong with her? Or “how come she can’t walk?” Young children often have no filter and are curious. They don’t worry about or intend to be hurtful. So, why should I get upset by their comments or questions?  Instead I view them as a blessing. It is another opportunity to help educate others about my conditions and show them that being different is not a curse.  

I believe these little encounters are little nudges from God. He brings people into our life for different reasons and for different amounts of time. Some are brief and others for long periods of time. But weather brief or not I don’t want to miss the opportunities (blessings) that I am given.

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