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Our pain is real

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Every day can bring something different. Sometimes days start with low pain only to have it increase throughout the day. Living with chronic pain is draining not only for the body but for our mind.

Because you never know when pain is going to go from 3 to 7+ you worry about where you are going or who is going to be around. Are you going to be in public? Are you close to home? Is the a place where you can attempt to get some relief?

When living with chronic pain there are so many things to consider. Yes, medications do help some, but they never relieve the pain fully leaving us to find ways to cope.

Yoga and other forms of exercise can be beneficial. Learning to breathe and stretch can help during spasms allowing some relief. Everyone is different and we must all find what works for us.

Our struggle and pain is real even if we don’t look ill. Most people living with chronic pain do there best not to show it and to stay positive. But when we have high pain days and can not do much don’t call us lazy or think we are faking it . Instead show compassion and understanding. Pray for us in those moments and let God’s healing hands do the rest.

Smile even when you think you can’ t

During the times when the news is negative, and people fail to treat each other with love and respect we can still live with joy and smile. Often my days are long, and my nights are short and restless because my pain is all over the place thanks to living with an Incomplete Spinal Cord Injury and Chiari Malformation, but I still have joy and can smile because God has promised that I will be healed and  will succeed. He gives me each day to enjoy all the little moments even through the pain.

I pray of ten for total healing. A healing that will take the muscle spasms away, the leg electrical zaps, the pain of 6+ that I fight several times a day that include allodynia on most of my torso. and one that will give me the total use of my legs. Although that t day has not come yet I know it will. But God has performed many great things in my life. He has taken me out of a wheelchair and given me the ability to stand and walk with a walker and at times without one. He has allowed me to continue to use my hands which allow me to paint, draw, take photos, but most of to hug all those around me so that I may spread the joy and love.

No matter what life throws at us there is always something to be thankful for. Even when life feels like we are walking through the mud with extra weight on our backs we can still smile and have joy because the little things matter. The smiles we share, the hugs we give to our family, the elbow bumps we share with our friends and/or co-workers. If we focus on the good the and keep moving forward, we will soon find ourselves on the other side of all the bad. So, smile even when you don’t believe you can and start telling a better story. His promise is real.

Love each other…

Love each other with genuine affection and take delight in honoring each other. Romans 12:10 (NLT)

 

Love and honor each other. So simple, yet it often appears that people cannot understand nor follow this. All you have to do is open up the newspaper or turn on the news to see how people treat each one another. During these trying times it would benefit us to take the time to respect and show compassion to one another. So often people are so caught up in their own point of view that they cannot and do not take the time to consider the other side. 

Recently, I personally have experienced nasty comments and bad behavior instead of love and understanding because I defended the “continue to wear face masks” view. Instead of taking the time to understand why I supported the “ continue to wear face masks” point of view, people told me: “butt out”, “ there’s no real risks because the media is lying”, “your stupid for listening to hype,”  “continue to follow the herd” and many other negative comments. Not once was I asked why I believed that wearing face masks was important instead it was negative comment after negative comment. Even when it was explained the response was, “then stay home” and other unpleasant words.  Why must I be forced to stay home and not enjoy the occasional outing with my family?

It would benefit all of us to love and honor each other regardless of our opinions. There is no reason to be hateful and disrespectful to one another. We all have our own agenda, but there is no reason we cannot take the time to understand the why and maybe learn something new. Taking the time to listen and respond with understanding even if our opinions differ can change the mood. After all, we were all given free will so why not choose to love and honor each other regardless of our opinions? Showing others affection and honoring them does not take a lot of effort, but it can change the way we interact and may even turn a negative situation into a mutually beneficial one.

Motivate one another

 

Make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness ,knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness , mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love.

1 Peter 1:5-7

Motivate: to provide with a motive IMPEL

Impelto urge or drive forward or on by or as if by the exertion of strong moral pressure.

We can all motivate each other via our actions and our words. Each morning we open our eyes we have an opportunity to choose to be positive or negative. Those of us living with chronic illness and pain may find it difficult to be positive when we hurt, but even a simple smile and making eye contact can change someone’s day.

Each of us have an opportunity each day to motivate each other by doing things with love and showing others via good works. There appears to be turmoil everywhere we look. Recently in my small city of Yucaipa protests were held. Most were peaceful, but one got out of control. People were fighting, business owners took up arms, and both sides behaved in a negative manner. Negative behavior like this creates separation and brings people down instead of brining us together and motivating change.  We are all human and not the color of our skin nor the way we dress.

Instead of being negative we can motivate each other by supporting one another and respecting each other’s views even when we do not agree. But we must first learn to listen to what is being said and not just hearing. There is a difference between hearing and listening. We can hear something without really listening. For example, we hear sounds all around us at any given moment, often we just tune out the background noise, but if we concentrate, we can pinpoint where each sound is resonating from and what is making each noise. When we really listen to what we hear, each of the sounds has meaning.

Have you ever heard someone talking but not really listened to them? I know I am guilty of this. For example, when one of my children was trying to convince me to let them participate in a particular event and I have already decided the answer is no because I know I’m right and they are wrong. So, I continue doing the dishes and making mental notes of what I need to buy at the grocery while half listening. My actions show them that their words are not important. But when I take the time to really listen to them and make eye contact, I find that they have some good ideas that I had not even considered. Often their ideas are quite different than mine, but that does not mean that they are wrong. We must be careful not to make someone else’s words our background noise. Because when we really listen, we build bridges instead of walls.  So, before you respond negatively take a moment, really listen, and think about what is being said. Sometimes people say things because they have experienced a situation that we cannot comprehend. The old saying,” You can catch more flies with honey” …comes to mind because a small act of kindness such as listening can change a person’s view and heart.

When we take the time to listen and treat others with love and respect, we motivate each other. We encourage change and promote togetherness not division and malice. It takes a lot of self-control to surrender to the fact that others may have a better idea or solution to a situation. During these trying times we all can be the catalyst to help urge others to keep moving forward by showing others that their words and lives matter by listening and not just hearing. Listen to others just as our Father listens to us because it brings hope, understanding, and motivation for change.

 

Thankful

Every breath and step I take, and every hurdle I conquer is because of Him. Facing each day with Him means nothing is too big to overcome because even when I think I am failing He is picking up and carrying me to the finish line.